There is always a beginning for everything, including when you are married. For those of you who are preparing for a wedding, you can be sure that you will be busy with various kinds of preparations related to this. Various plans may fill the minds of you and your partner. Remembering marriage will be a new beginning for you and your partner. It is a natural thing if you want everything to go perfectly. Because everyone must expect happiness in their marriage.
In addition to various plans regarding the wedding party, you and your partner are also required to prepare yourself to live married life itself. No household is always running smoothly and well. All couples will definitely go through many challenges in living it. Whether it’s a fun challenge or a difficult one to pass. However, it is very important for you and your partner to prepare for these things later.
Seeing the above reality, it is very natural that you and your partner start talking about various things related to each other’s personality. His name will also form a new family, of course, you and your partner must get to know each other more deeply. Various habits, bad qualities, or even financial conditions should be discussed from the beginning. Things like this will make you and your partner get to know each other more so that the relationship is stronger and more comfortable with one another.
Don’t let you and your partner go through the household with a million puzzles in their hearts. Especially because you and your partner don’t really know each other’s personalities. You don’t need to be too formal, you and your partner can communicate and discuss various things casually so that one another can open up and tell stories comfortably. Check out the following things that you must discuss with your partner before marriage.
Marriage, of course, must begin with a clear purpose so it is very appropriate for you and your partner to discuss this from the beginning. Do not let you plan a wedding without a purpose. A marriage like this will be very fragile and lack a solid foundation on which you and your partner can rely in difficult times.
Also, make sure that you and your partner have a strong commitment to living a married life. This will be an important pillar in building the household that you are trying to build with your partner. Talk about this clearly from the start so that you and your partner can be more confident about living a household life.
Communication is an important point in relationships, including marriage. This could be the thing that makes the relationship stronger or even the opposite. It is very important for you and your partner to understand each other’s patterns/ways of communicating so that you and your partner can get to know each other’s habits well and clearly. If it turns out that you and your partner cannot find the right pattern of communication, it is possible that various obstacles will arise in the marriage later.
Feel free to discuss this as a serious matter in your relationship. In fact, communication is indeed an important point that will help you build a happy family. Some bad communication habits may still be suppressed or eliminated if you and your partner work on them from the start.
Make no mistake, everyone will certainly have various things that are their personal priorities in their life. Even though they have decided to plan a wedding. You must discuss things like this with your partner. Because after all, you and your partner certainly have their own personal lives, including various priorities in it. It is possible that these priorities will still be carried out after marriage. So, it is very important for you and your partner to know each other’s priorities from the start.
Finance is the most important thing not to be overlooked in this discussion, especially regarding the current financial condition of each. Wedding plans will require a large amount of money. One solution that you can take is to create a budget and save together with your partner to fulfill it.
This, of course, must be preceded by the respective disclosures regarding financial conditions. Don’t let this be forgotten. Before getting married, you and your partner must know each other’s financial condition and how to manage it so far.
In addition, you and your partner are also required to discuss the management of your household finances after the wedding. Do not let you do not have a picture of your household finances and your partner later. If so, you are just going through it without a clear financial goal.
No need to think too far and long. At least, you also need to have financial targets for the next five years after marriage. This will help you and your partner to picture your household finances in the future, including making it easier to achieve various family financial goals. Some people think it’s too quick to talk about things like this before marriage. But on the other hand, starting a marriage without financial targets and goals is quite a risk, right?
Setting and determining financial goals from the start will be much more appropriate than you do it after the wedding. If you’ve discussed it from the start, you and your partner have a much longer time to prepare. Or you and your partner can start before the wedding. For example, by investing together in finances from the start.
Getting married will certainly unite you and your spouse and extended family at once. This relationship will be strong if you get to know your partner’s extended family and vice versa. There is no need to fear or worry about many things related to this. Both you and your partner certainly have your own family history. Being open from the start would be much better. In fact, if you have the opportunity to meet each other between your family and your partner’s family, it would be much better.
A good extended family relationship will make the relationship between you and your partner even stronger, so it is very important to start getting closer to one another. Do not let you get married without knowing or even knowing the condition of each extended family. Things like this will make the relationship stiff and not warm.
Not only wives, but husbands are also obliged to take part in managing the household. There are many household tasks to complete. That is why cooperation between you and your partner is needed. You and your partner will be a work team in completing various household tasks. You must also discuss this from the beginning together with your partner. Of course, by considering the main work conditions and various other things in your life and your partner.
Building a household will certainly not be as easy as planning it. Because you and your partner will be faced with various conditions that are new to each of you. Anticipate various problems in your household by discussing important things related to habits and various other important points. This may seem difficult at first. However, if done with proper communication, everything will go well and smoothly.